Pubdate: Wed, 08 Nov 2000 Date: 11/08/2000 Source: USA Today (US) Author: Ingrid Middleton Authors: Ingrid Middleton No matter whether someone is a celebrity, drugs are a pervasive and self-destructive attempt to avoid pain and coping with life (''The long, slow slide of Robert Downey Jr.: Hollywood is too much for actor, uncle says,'' Cover Story, Life, Nov. 29). Whether it be Robert Downey Jr., who receives high-profile media coverage or a single mother who stands to lose her kids, drugs become a way of life for many reasons far too complicated to list in an article or letter to the editor. As a professional working with people with drug problems, I find a common theme in so many who struggle is that the reality of living comes up against wounds -- sometimes from childhood -- that never heal. Feelings are buried and drugs keep the truth hidden, the pain is undiscovered and left to fester for weeks, months and even years. Sobriety is not a safe place to be: It is raw, lonely and unforgiving. It isn't surprising Downey and millions of others find themselves back where they started. Without good care and compassion for the treacherous road to wellness -- it is almost inevitable. May Downey's story open the doors and windows to the silent pain of many. Ingrid Middleton, Salt Lake City, Utah